“Why am I stuck using these fantasies?! Why can’t I just use willpower to break this habit?!” I used to wonder this over and over again, when my only route to pleasure involved disconnecting from my partner and disappearing into mental fantasies.
For over a decade, I didn’t feel much at all internally when I made love. There were several painful tender spots in my vagina, and the rest was largely just numb. My pleasure and orgasms almost exclusively came from my clitoris.
This is partly why I was reliant on mental fantasies...
Do your nipples sometimes feel either numb, or overly sensitive?
I experienced this for over a decade. In my first two long relationships my partners’ touch on my nipples would often be repulsive to me, as they were so sensitive. Only when I was already turned on and close to orgasm...
I was in a grief-portal for over a week recently. Deep, old pain was calling for my presence and love, and I allowed myself to sink down and meet it as fully as I could, over and over again.
But pleasure was also a part of that experience!
How?!
Firstly, I know the importance of helping...
Mmmmmmm… I’m sitting in the warm afterglow of a beautiful heart orgasm, which brought me so much joy that I laughed for 2 minutes straight afterwards. Yes, yes, yes!
My practice today was a slow-burn… for the first 40 minutes I was feeling mostly sensual aliveness and so...
It was a turning point for me: the moment when I committed to making self-pleasure a non-negotiable part of my life.
Every afternoon for the month of February 2021 I closed the door on the little van I was living in, lit my candles, laid out my special ritual pleasure blanket and...
A few days ago, no 0rgasm came for me as I touched my yoni in a pleasure practice. Instead, there was frustration, and sadness. My yoni was a firm NO to penetration of any kind. But that, for me, is a perfect pleasure practice too. Afterwards I felt so much calm softness, reverence for my body,...
